Gifts, Money, & Self Worth – Where Do We Get Our Value From? – How Did We Get It All Wrong?

 

Gifts, Money, & Self Worth – Where Do We Get Our Value From? – How Did We Get It All Wrong?

With Mother’s Day approaching, I think it is the perfect time to talk about something that has been on my heart lately. Ladies, do you have memories of being a child and giving someone you cared for a weed bouquet? Or maybe it was as an adult and receiving one? If you have not had this exact experience, I do hope that you’ve had something similar. Nothing at all compares to the feeling of knowing you are loved and thought of in these most basic and simplistic expressions. There is purity in the giving that is so evident it can be overwhelming.

It was just an ordinary day for me when a lady who worked at the wholesale store stopped me. She asked if she could take a look at the “gorgeous” wedding ring I had on.  She admired it and said, “Wow, Your husband must really love you.” “Yes, he does”, I replied, “but let me let you in on a not so big secret. This ring is a CZ and was relatively inexpensive.” She didn’t believe it at first and then she didn’t understand why I would let anyone know it wasn’t “real”.

About a month earlier almost the same exact situation occurred and I was told, “Wow, Your husband must really love you.”, again.

Last week I was accidentally informed of a gift my husband was giving me by the company sending it out. One of the things the very sweet and embarrassed lady on the other end of the phone said to me was that my husband loves me very much because of what he bought me.

It isn’t just situations that  involve me. I have overheard women say this to each other time and time again when it looks as if someone has spent a large amount of money on them.

To be honest, I really did like the feeling of another person acknowledging my husband’s love for me. But then Holy Spirit began poking at my heart. Since then, every time someone has equated love with a perceived expensive gift my heart would break. This is one way it starts ladies, this idea that our worth can be measured with money. I do realize that to some extent we do invest financially to what we value. However, we can not let ourselves believe that if we receive a less than expensive gift that we are somehow worth less. Nor should we define someone’s love based on such gifts. Look at Hollywood. Huge expensive gifts for the love of their life the week. Money does not compensate for lack of character or integrity.

In the Bible there is a story of Jesus seeing wealthy people giving offerings at the temple and then a widow giving just 2 mites (Luke 21:1-4). Some may give all they have to give and yet to others it may appear worthless. They may be mocked and ridiculed because it doesn’t meet with someone’s expectations or demands. But our God sees the depth of the offering. One person spending 10 thousand out of their wealth is not the same as a person spending a dime out of their poverty. It is the heart behind it, not the amount.

Our God sees the depth of the offering.

When was the last time you or someone you know said “Wow, your husband obviously loves you very much.” when he took out the trash or just for going to work to bring home a paycheck? Is bringing home a loaf of bread so much less worthy of love than jewelry?

There are so many ways we can give generously that do not require money. We can give of time, skill, energy. We can send a note or a quick text message. We can remember someone’s favorite color or favorite song.

Many times I could only give in non financial ways. There have been those who not only appreciated it but treasured it and there have been those who have mocked it because they required something more or different. Often, it was something that I could not give.

I remember when I made a gift for a friend. I had worked for some time perfecting a technique. I made it well over a dozen times and when I finally felt I had it right I picked the best and most favored materials I had and made a gift I was proud of. It was the best I had ever made, even to this day. I remember being so excited to give the gift and when I handed it to her she barely looked at it and put it down on a table, never to bring it up again. Not a thank you, nothing. I was so hurt. I had every reason to pick up offense and run with it. Instead I laid down my pride, (ok, I petted my pride for a little first), and just realized there were deeper needs for the moment. This is not shared to shame anyone but to say I’ve tried to use that feeling I had as a reminder of what feeling devalued is like. I never want to cause someone to feel like that. And while I can’t control what others think, I can do my best to express to someone what their worth is.

Have we got it all wrong? Do we make our self worth dependent on the gifts given to us and money spend on us? Do you assume that Jane Doe’s husband loves her more because it looks like he spent more money on her than your husband spent on you? Or maybe you feel that someone doesn’t appreciate you and the gift you have given and therefore your self worth has dropped in your eyes?

Does a gift lose value because someone doesn’t see it’s true worth?

It is probably safe to say we have all missed the mark in this area at some point in time. How can we get our minds set right about giving? How can we stop seeing the worth of a person based on how we perceive they should be giving? How do we stop placing a value on ourselves based on what we are given?   –   Jesus. He is the absolute final authority of a person’s worth. He died for all so that those who would believe and place their trust in Him would be saved. Whether you know it or not, receive it or not, Jesus died for you. You are worth dying for. You are worth all the pain and suffering He endured to give you eternal life. You don’t have to believe His promise. You don’t have to receive the gift of salvation and eternal life He is offering you. But it is still true. And it is true of every person who ever was or will be.

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Ladies, for Mother’s Day and every day to come, I’m going to ask you to take a challenge. Will you make an intentional effort to realize the everyday, basic, simple, overlooked things that show you just how much you are loved? Will you also make it a point to do these same type of things (without requiring acknowledgement) for others? I believe if you commit to do this, you will see so much more love than you thought was there.

Leave a comment and share one way you realized someone was showing you love that you hadn’t noticed before.

VickiSiggy2

 

How To Prepare Fresh Fava Beans For Almost Any Recipe

How To Prepare Fresh Fava Beans For Almost Any Recipe

A few years ago I had fava beans for the first time. Where were they all my life! How did I never notice them before? These little green beans of love and deliciousness are now something I look forward to every spring thanks to Door To Door Organics.

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Fava beans are a Mediterranean legume mostly associated with Italian cuisine. Also known as Broad Beans and Yellow Split Peas, they are filled with vitamins, minerals and amino acids, arguably making them one of the world’s more perfect protein rich foods. Because of this, they are an excellent choice for meatless dishes.

When deciding how much fava bean to prepare you will need to keep in mind that a lot makes a little. While the amount can vary, I used four pounds of pods which made around 2.25 cups of beans.favabeanspods

The beans have both a shell and a pod. While young beans are sweet and can be eaten raw with the shell, the mature beans require a little effort to prepare to avoid the mature leathery shell.

 

Uncooked Fava Beans.

Uncooked Fava Beans.

Each pod has a seam which can be peeled down and then opened to reveal the fuzzy interior and beans inside. The beans are then removed and added to salted boiling water for up to 2 minutes. (Note: the water may turn a yellow-greenish-black color.)

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Fava Beans when first placed in boiling water.

 

Fava Beans after boiling for 2 minutes.

Fava Beans after boiling for 2 minutes.

After second batch of Fava Beans have boiled for 2 minutes. Notice the change in water color.

After second batch of Fava Beans have boiled for 2 minutes. Notice the change in water-color.

Rinse well with cold water. When the beans have been rinse well and are cool to the touch, you can then peel off the shells.

 

Boiled but unshelled Fava Beans.

Fava Bean being shelled.

Fava Bean being shelled.

They are now prepared in the French tradition and ready for a variety of dishes.

 

Boiled and shelled Fava Beans.

Boiled and shelled Fava Beans.

If you are fortunate to be able to find young beans, you can follow basically the same steps but there is no need to remove the shell before eating.

Take a look at my Fava Bean Pinterest board for some inspiration.

Fava Beans with Chicken

Fava Beans with Chicken

 

VickiSiggy2

 

 

 

 

How To Prepare Fresh Fava Beans For Almost Any Recipe
Ingredients
  • Fava Bean Pods
  • Water
  • Salt
Instructions
  1. Twist the tip of the pod and peel down the seam.
  2. Open pod and pop out the beans.
  3. Place beans in boiling salted water for up to 2 minutes.
  4. Strain beans and rinse under cold water.
  5. Peel beans out of their shell.
  6. Prepare according to recipe directions.

 

Golden Milk And Turmeric Tea

How To Make Golden Milk And Turmeric Tea

Just before Easter the whole family came down with a yucky cold. It was one of those colds where no one even wanted to look at food. Bone stocks, water, and crackers were our main food groups for a few days. Then I made Golden Milk.

All it takes is a few ingredients gently heated and then experienced. It is rich and lush and tastes like it should cost a million dollars. There are many different variations using milks or teas as your base, (which determines if you are making golden milk or tumeric tea), and I will give you suggestions to modify it to make it your favorite drink ever.

goldenmilkingredientsGolden Milk and Turmeric Tea Ingredients:

  • 32 ounces Coconut milk (Almond milk, rice milk, black tea, or chi tea can be used instead but without coconut milk it won’t have the same rich flavor.
  • 2 Tablespoons Ground Turmeric (~2 inches of fresh grated turmeric may be substituted.)
  • 1.5 Teaspoons Ground Ginger (~1/2 inch of fresh grated ginger may be substituted.)
  • 1 Teaspoon Ground Cinnamon
  • 1/2 Teaspoon Ground Cardamom
  • Pinch of Black Pepper & Sea Salt
  • 2-3 Tablespoons Raw Honey
  • 1 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract
  • 1/2 – 1 Tablespoon Grass Fed Butter (Omit salt if the butter is salted.)

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Instructions:

  1. Put all the dry ingredients and the butter in a pot over low to medium heat and let it simmer.
  2. Once warmed, add the honey and vanilla. Take off the heat and stir in well.
  3. If using fresh spices, you may want to strain it through a fine mesh colander or pulse it through your blender.
  4. If the flavor is too strong for you, dilute with more coconut milk or tea.

goldenmilkcookedI find that you can often double the amount of liquid and still enjoy a delicious cup. I highly suggest using coconut milk. I find that the character of the beverage is lost without it. If all you can add is a teaspoon per cup, do it. 

For two days we sipped on Golden Milk and wondered why we wait to be sick to enjoy it. The story ends well, we were all better by Easter.

VickiSiggy2

 

 

 

 

 

Golden Milk & Turmeric Tea
Prep time: 
Cook time: 
Total time: 
Ingredients
  • 32 ounces Coconut milk (Almond milk, rice milk, black tea, or chi tea can be used instead but without coconut milk it won't have the same rich flavor.
  • 2 Tablespoons Ground Turmeric (~2 inches of fresh grated Turmeric may be substituted.)
  • 1.5 Teaspoons Ground Ginger (~1/2 inch of fresh grated ginger may be substituted.)
  • 1 Teaspoon Ground Cinnamon
  • ½ Teaspoon Ground Cardamom
  • Pinch of Black Pepper & Sea Salt
  • 2-3 Tablespoons Raw Honey
  • 1 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract
  • ½ - 1 Tablespoon Grass Fed Butter (Omit salt if the butter is salted.)
Instructions
  1. Put all the dry ingredients and the butter in a pot over low to medium heat and let it simmer.
  2. Once warmed, add the honey and vanilla. Take off the heat and stir in well.
  3. If using fresh spices, you may want to strain it through a fine mesh colander or pulse it through your blender.
  4. If the flavor is too strong for you, dilute with more coconut milk or tea.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Spring Cleaning And Newsletter Updates

Spring cleaning. Usually it is something that I do not look forward to, but this year is different. I am loving digging deep and removing not only the obvious junk but also seemingly good things that weigh down life. Lifestyles are being simplified and while change can be difficult it can also have a rewarding aspect. When determining what stays and what goes I’ve boiled it down to two questions that I ask of everything; 1) Do we need it? and 2) Does God want us to have it? It is absolutely amazing what God does when you give Him control of even your spring cleaning!

What kinds of rules do you have for spring cleaning? Do you have a ‘something goes for every something that comes in’ rule? Maybe a ‘put it in a box for six months to see if you miss it’ policy? I’d love to hear about what you do.

Last week I took a break from blogging to do some spring cleaning on this site as well. One thing I felt led to do was to give people an option of subscribing to all of the site or the ability to pick and choose which types of content you want delivered. I know not everyone homeschools or wants decorating tips etc. Now I can finally offer that service! Yeah!

Keep in mind, this is not our old blog post email system through feedburner. If you want to sign up or change your newsletter subscription options, just go to our Mailing List page. Fill out only your email address if you are updating your preferences as it will ask if you want to change your preferences and then send you an email to guide you through the rest. If you are new to our mailing list, fill out all the options that pertain to you to start a new subscription.

Later this week I will resume normal posting. I’ve put together a few yummy recipes for you and I’ve been finalizing a Biblical study series that I hope will be a blessing.

Time to get back to spring cleaning!

VickiSiggy2

 

Am I Qualified To Homeschool?

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If you are anything like me, you might be wondering “Am I qualified to homeschool my children?”. How was I to be sure I was teaching them what they needed, when they needed it and in the way they needed it? Sure, I could just use a typical school program and go about the year as usual. The trouble was that I saw that system fail more times then not on the most basic level in the educational system. I worried about teaching chemistry, or worse yet, physics! I found myself torn because of a lack of confidence and a lack of knowledge. I wondered if this whole homeschool thing was for me. Still, I really felt like God was leading my family to jump into this new way of learning.

What God began to show me is that I had been trained to see the public school system as the superior if not only means of giving a child a quality education. The public education system was a type of idol to me that I felt I needed to emulate. But that isn’t what I was called to do. I was called to be more like Christ and help my child do the same. I wasn’t called to teach my child how to answer questions on a test. I was called to create an environment where he would love to learn – in his way, in his timing. I am called to encourage my child to find and nurture his strengths, find his calling, and strengthen his areas of weakens. Once that was settled in my heart I was free to move forward.

What about my weaknesses? The great news is that I don’t have to be perfect. I don’t need a PhD, and I don’t need to teach every subject! Yes, I can get out of physics! A little research revealed that there are options for children who need outside help for certain subject areas. From curriculum that comes complete with lab kits so that even I could teach – I mean, learn – chemistry, to cooperative classes, and online classes, there are hundreds of possibilities.

Once you find a local homeschool support system, you may find another parent that excels in the area you struggle with and they might even be willing to help you out. There are tutors, older homeschoolers and homeschool graduates plus internet resources for just about anything you can imagine.

With a little support, we can be completely successful in educating our children. However educating and training are not exactly the same thing. Education and training are two separate yet interweaving aspects of child rearing. I can provide my child with the most elaborate and extensive education and still not train him to succeed in life. Homeschooling on the other hand allows us the opportunity to train and educate towards life and callings.

What qualifies me, and you, to homeschool our children? Our love for our children and God. You see, God calls us to train up our children. Because of this I know that all that is needed is provided by God. We need only be obedient to His leadings. He never gives us more than He can handle. You, as your child’s parents, are the strongest force, aside from God, in his life. With God’s guidance and your love for your child, you are completely capable of taking on this calling. When distractions and discouragement try to steal your peace, remember that you were made for this. The waves are just temporary and God provides the best surf boards.

VickiSiggy2

 

 

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